My wife-as noted earlier-was operated on last week for an aggressive cancer. She is 74, and was not exceptionally strong at the time of the operation (not that there was any real choice !)
The shock, plus a low-grade infection have brought her to death's door, and she has been on a ventilator for five days so far. Fluid retention in the body tissues has changed her from a "scrawny" 106 lbs. to a massive 160 + lbs.
I try to visit her 2-3 times a day - evem though she is continuously sedated.
We have been married for 50 years, and it is tough saying goodbye.